Our culture consists of a social codex, - manners that we use to survive with others. It is a necessity. But it is also a game. We nudge each other to one or other direction each time we are in contact with each other. We expect that others behave in specific way.
Some take the rules themselves. Internalize the social expectations. They think that they master the rules. Yet the ones who use and force the rules most are also the most disliked. And that is all right.
"The ultimate right and wrong doesn’t exist. The right and wrong are constructions of human mind. And human mind is of fluid construction." -Max Noble
The rigid people imagine themselves that there is only one way of being and doing things. They know what is right and wrong in this world. Yet, you and I know the truth. The ultimate right and wrong doesn’t exist. The right and wrong are constructions of human mind. And human mind is of fluid construction.
The rigid people are one-trick-ponies (circus ponies who master one trick and nothing else) and this makes them extremely vulnerable. Take them out of their comfort zone and they will be lost. They have programmed themselves to survive in one specific environment, one specific act the time. You don’t want to be a one-trick-pony. You don’t want to just survive in social situations. You want to master the social situations. And that is an art. Not science.
Truth of First Impression. To master the human interaction and to perfect your First Impression, you cannot rely solely on rules. That makes you inflexible, judgmental, one-trick-pony. A graceless know-it-all. People will despise you and with time you will grow even more judgmental and isolated. To stop this, you need to trust your instincts, lower your guards and let the flow happen. Train your instincts together with the social codex. When you meet new people, be the first one to humanize the interaction. Take others in to the warmth of your personality from the first moment, look into their eyes, respect what you see and take action based on that. There is no predefined code. Be bold and create deep, meaningful interactions. Done correctly, it will make you well liked and respected, - a pleasant star of the day.
Final Note. Use of humor is the fastest and most efficient way to move others to ease. Even the stiff people will lower their guards and let them be influenced by you with a successful use of wit. That’s why everybody likes comedians.
My name is Max Noble. I am an Adventurer, Cosmopolitan & Life Connoisseur, and I commit acts of nobleness around the world. This was my today's story about Disrespecting the Rules, part of my book "The Laws of First Impression".