To attract others is a magnificent combination of art and science. There are rules that make sense and others, - not so. At least at the first glimpse.
Accept this: Pure goodness is boring. You are never attracted to pure goodness as much to something that has complex appearance, maybe event slightly sinister. That’s why James Bond has a drinking problem. That’s why Trump won the election. That’s why the women who make men wild, are not the most saintly ones. Forget the unnatural political correctness. People, that include you, love the hint of danger. You are provoked and stirred by it. It awakens you. And you love it. Life is dull and you want to break the dreary routines. You want to love the bad.
To attract others. To make them interested. To make a sale. To convince anyone, you cannot rely on your goodness only. Yes, you can appear as a Saint, but to perfect the persuasion, you need to grow and accept that there are no living Saints. That is why the religions give the title of Saint, when the person has first passed away. When they lived, they were not Saints. Now that the person is not in vigor, the followers are free to construct the perfect image. Only fools believe in perfection. There is no perfection.
Truth of First Impression. When first impression happens, you need to be in charge of it. You don’t want to appear boring. You want others to want you. To do that, you need to accept the fact that a bore will never be as good as someone who creates excitement. The one who grabs your attention will always win over a dull, no matter how good they are. You need to hint something dangerous, forbidden, problematic even slightly threatening.
Final note. Never overplay this side of you when creating first impression. You don’t want to scare off people. You want their full attention, not run or fight reaction. The ideal good-evil balance is depended on you, but during the first impression it must only a slightest hint.
My name is Max Noble. I am an Adventurer, Cosmopolitan & Life Connoisseur, and I commit acts of nobleness around the world. This was my today's story about Evil in You, part of my book "The Laws of First Impression".