Never underestimate the power of first impression

Ignore the message of this article and your life will be failed one. Your love life, social life, career and your success depend on it. One second or less and you are judged, - forever. This is the power of first impressions.

"When you are in charge of your first impression, you are the one in control of your destiny." -Max Noble

When you show yourself in the world and meet other people, you naturally stir up emotions. This is to be expected and do not fool yourself into thinking that others do not judge you. It is an ancient survival mechanism, rooted to the deepest parts of our brains and a very powerful one. You cannot use your life second-guessing others motives or nature. We trust our instincts immediately and the impressions we make are lasting ones.

"Let the fools ignore the power of first impressions." -Max Noble

"Let the fools ignore the power of first impressions." -Max Noble

In life it is foolish not to make best out this primary reaction that cannot be avoided. You need to learn how to master the art of first impressions.

You will start by learning how to do more precise first impression. Look at yourself at the mirror and ask if you send the right signals. You want to be thinking the best of you. Not George Clooney or Angelica Jolie. Do you have an aura of likability, trustworthiness and wisdom in your own way? If not, you must take an action. Not giving the best of you is brazenly stupid. Your mirror reflection is the lightning in the dark that people will see and not forget and you don’t want the lightning be shadowed by your gloominess or secondary deficiencies. We all do have them. The best of us just don’t care.

When you are in charge of your first impression, you are the one in control of your destiny. It is always better to make favorable imprint than to lower your standards. The more you are in control of your first impression, the more freedom you have. Your happiness and prosperity depend on it. Let the fools ignore the power of first impressions. You will never underestimate the power of first impression.

My name is Max Noble. I am an Adventurer, Connoisseur and Connector, and I commit acts of nobleness around the world. This was my first note about First Impressions.

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Why people with class never reject kind words

How to avoid making the most common mistake in replying to compliment?

In the realm of life you must learn to accept others respect and admiration. The problem in being unease with success is that rather than humbly accept, people often choose to reject or dilute the compliment. It is tempting to say something like: “Thank you, but I felt that my presentation was slow” or ask for additional reassurance: “Oh, but what do you think of my voice, - was it breaking?”

Now imagine for a moment to be that person who has seen you perform well and simply wants to express his admiration and you choose to appear prudent by saying “Oh, that was nothing.”, what would his thoughts be about your reply? Confusion and less respect.

Understand this: Respect and admiration, especially when expressed in public forum are like bonfire. It will spread, reinforce itself and make everybody more content. That is why you need to learn to say the following two words every time when you receive a compliment. “Thank you!” No rejection of kind words. No showing of insecurity or changing the subject. It only undermines the compliment and possibly insults the giver. And most likely it stops the compliments from being made by that person again.

Your duty is to say the magic words: Thank you. The most accomplished people have learned this, and it is very easy implement. Just put your inner thoughts aside for a moment and make the moment pleasant for both of you.

Good manners & style go never out of fashion. -Max Noble

Good manners & style go never out of fashion. -Max Noble

When aiming for a class, add a final touch by sharing the credit whenever appropriate. Share your positive feelings about others. That is one of most subtle ways of gaining friends. It will aslo add a new dimension of kindness and makes the conversation flow.

My name is Max Noble. I am an Adventurer, Connoisseur and Connector, and I commit acts of nobleness around the world. This was my today's note about good manners

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The Barons: Do Not Be a Bore

It is a ragtag, yet the most refined group of men on earth. That’s the simple truth about The Barons. But as you can feel it, it is not quite enough to leave it there. Who are these people acting by way of they were the kings of the world, giving themselves grand titles like, The Baron of Monaco and The Baroness of Quito? Isn’t that just some out of proportions game they are playing? No. It is not. These gentlemen and ladies have much more depth than just their exotic and very visual style suggests. They have values. Good values. They have depth, and most of them yearn to make the world a better place.

From the right: The Barons of Copenhagen (Max Noble) & of Baham (Defustel Ndjoko), The Baroness of Quito (Maríe José Incisa-di Camerana) and the Barons of Brussels (Clyde Baron) and Marolles (Kamal Eddine Regbi). 

From the right: The Barons of Copenhagen (Max Noble) & of Baham (Defustel Ndjoko), The Baroness of Quito (Maríe José Incisa-di Camerana) and the Barons of Brussels (Clyde Baron) and Marolles (Kamal Eddine Regbi). 

But let’s get back for a moment to their most noticeable trait. Peacocking. What is that? It is an act when a group of (mainly) men gather together to make an impact with their clothes and manners. It is not for faint hearted. It is a visual fiesta like no other and requires major “cohones” from the participants. Peacocking can be planned, but most often it is an improvised meeting, nearing a grand show on public place. I participated several shows last week at Pitti Uomo, one of the most respected fashion shows. And how was the response? The first day we couldn’t (or wanted) to get inside the show as we were photographed and interviewed for straight 6 hours and that’s while we had the time of our lives.

Enjoying your time is one of the most visible traits of when participating Barons life. There are no dulls or bores among us. It is expected to live like we were meant to live: only once. It is about being present, being there for others and making most out of the moment. Just for it’s own sake. It is an explosion of creativity and good manners where the women are ladies and men gentlemen. The other aspect of being a Baron is about respecting the women and treating them well. As many modern men have not grown with this trait, each Baron needs to find his own path. Some are most comfortable with Gary Grant mannerism, some lean towards Victorian era style and some 1920’s laissez-fair.  One thing is certain though; bad mannerism is a taboo, like the casual dressing is not tolerated.

Being a Baron is much to do about respect. Respect for yourself and others. In that order. You cannot just copy their style. That would make you a dandy. Barons go deeper than that and one major element about becoming granted the title of Baron, is not to be a bore. It is about enjoying the life. Being present and showing to others how to do it with style.

To be continued...

My name is Max Noble. I am an Adventurer, Connoisseur and Globetrotter, and I commit acts of nobleness around the world. This was my second part of the article serie: The Barons. Click here for the first one.

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Meet the Barons, the most admired people in Firenze & soon in the world.

If you have manners or style, you don’t want to miss this story. This is a previously unwritten and uncovered story about Barons and my guide to what you need to know about contemporary style and manners.

The Grand Barons. Clyde Baron, Max Noble & Kamal Eddine Regbi. By the way, that's me in the middle. 

The Grand Barons. Clyde Baron, Max Noble & Kamal Eddine Regbi. By the way, that's me in the middle. 

You know these glossy magazines about fashion? Forget about them. And the starved boy-model in it? Already forgotten. Hipster beard? I got you there, didn’t I? If you are a man and have seen other people the last year or so, you have probably wondered how the woodchopper beard would look on you. Just admit it. And then forget it and move on. Hipsters are the victims of bad and misguided marketing to make us men look like we somehow more authentic and could kill a grisly if needed. Yes, wood chopping is good. I do it every time I when I go back to Finland to fire the sauna and I wear the boots, the weared down shirt and the stocking cap if it is cold. But I don’t wear it in Copenhagen and I would not definitely wear it at Pitti Uomo. That would be inauthentic and it looks stupid.

I am in Florence, Italy, the current ground zero of men’s style and I am with real people with real ideas and most interestingly, with real impact. I am talking about new idea that somehow captures everybody’s attention at once and seems to transfer everybody facing it. Meet the Barons. The most photographed and talked about people of the show in Florence.

But before we move on, I have a confession: I am a Baron. I am probably the worst and the best person to write about Barons. I am an insider, making me not objective. Yet at the same time I have the insider knowledge and insights that no-one else has, - yet. And the story of Barons is not been told before. Why is that? Simply because it is born as I am writing about it. It is born out of the urge to have manners and style combined with coherent life-philosophy. And we are many here in Florence this week. We are the people with superior style, great manners and true values. No-one has yet written about it.

My name is Max Noble. I am an art adventurer, watch connoisseur and globetrotter, and I commit acts of nobleness around the world. This was my first part of the article serie: The Barons.

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Have you stopped dressing poorly yet?

Warning: This article includes random rant about bad style.

Once upon the time there was no excuse for dressing poorly. And I mean not just casually, but badly and incompetently. This was a generation ago (or two, depending who you ask). The time when trousers were considered casual and jeans belonged to real cowboys.

"I'd rather consciously overdress, than inconsciously underdress."

"I'd rather consciously overdress, than inconsciously underdress."

I am wearing jeans while writing this. For my excuse, I am alone and I am not planning to meet anyone. But next week? I am going to Firenze, to attend an annual fashion show called Pitti Uomo. While jeans are part of the show even there, the colossal show four-day trade fair is known to have the most stylish crowd of all. More pictures about the rakish fair attendants are spread in social media, than about the grand catwalks. It simply the ground zero of fashion. And it is refreshing and very social media era like, that the real people are the center of attention and not some 17-year-old starved model.

Next week, in Firenze it is more than just ok to have style. It is mandatory. There is no excuse for trainers or poor hair cut. Call me crazy, but trainers should be used, - you guessed: when you train. The rubber boots are to be used when it really rains and you need to walk through a wet field. Not in a shopping mall when you are doing your grocery shopping, unless you plan to go fishing between the café latte and buying the bread. And it is common courtesy to have cultivated appearance when meeting other people. That is even more so if you are not cultivated.

The world seems to go in circles. About twenty years ago it was all about stonewashed jeans and Diesel ruled the world. Now in past 5 years more people have become more aware that the hipster look looks ridiculous if there is no authencity behind it. You simply cannot pull the shaggy beard and rubber boots look off if you don’t work in forest or outdoors, doing real manual work. Sitting in SoHo and sharing a work desk while eating a sandwich from Pret-a-Manger and wanting to look like you are going to chop some wood and shoot a rabbit, is just not real. People can see through it. It is just not like that I don’t like jeans. I love them and wear them often. But underdressing must stop. The same goes to Trumpism. It is simply bad style and even worse manners.

My name is Max Noble. I am an art adventurer, watch connoisseur and globetrotter, and I commit acts of nobleness around the world. This was my personal note about bad style. 

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